Signs It May Be Time to Seek Therapy for Your Child or Teen

Parents want what’s best for their child, but sometimes it can be confusing, or even scary, to know when your child or teen might benefit from therapy. Many parents worry that they are overreacting or are unsure when it is the appropriate time for their child to begin therapy. As a therapist who specializes in working with children and teens, I hope that this guide will help answer some of the questions you might have about whether therapy may be a good fit for your child. While I can’t speak to every family’s unique situation, I hope this resource clarifies some of the common signs that may indicate it’s time to reach out to a therapist.

This list is not exhaustive, but here are some warning signs to consider if your child or teen is displaying several of the following:

Emotional Signs

• Frequent sadness, tearfulness, or sudden sensitivity.

• Intense fears, panic, or worries that disrupt daily life.

• Difficulty calming down when upset, even with a parent’s help.

• Feeling “numb” or emotionally disconnected.

• Sudden mood swings, or anger that is excessive to the situation.

Behavioral Signs

• Frequent or intense tantrums make it difficult for the parent to help calm the child down.

• Withdrawing from friends or activities that they used to enjoy.

• Difficulty in school, where teachers have noticed or expressed concerns.

• Regression in age-appropriate milestones (bedwetting, clinginess, thumb sucking, etc.)

• Risky or unsafe behavior continues after adults try to intervene.

• Changes in sleep or appetite.

Social/Developmental Signs

• Isolation from family and friends.

• Lack of interest in social activities or hobbies.

• Bullying others or being bullied. 

• Difficulty making or keeping friends.

Specific Situations 

• Divorce, separation, or major family changes.

• Death or major illness in the family or a friend.

• Trauma or exposure to traumatic events.

An important note that I believe needs to be said on its own: If your child or teen expresses any thoughts or behaviors that indicate self-harm or wishes to harm themselves, do not hesitate to reach out to a professional. These can be tricky situations in which a therapist can help you navigate. 

While it’s normal for children and teens to show some of these signs occasionally, if they persist for more than a few weeks or begin to interfere with daily functioning (ex: going to school or spending time with family or friends), then it is time to consider reaching out to a professional. A therapist who specializes in working with children and teens can help you navigate these challenges and provide tools to help support your child.

Any of these sound familiar or have questions? Reach out to us to explore if therapy is right for your family.